The Number One Thing I Hear In My Treatment Room ...

... "It's not that bad. Other people go through worse".

I've heard it from women who have received cancer diagnoses. I've heard it from women who have experienced multiple traumatic events in a short space of time. I've heard it from women who have lost their much wanted baby. I've heard it from women who have been horribly injured in accidents. I've heard it from women who have been through a period of stress and unwanted change. These are stoic women. Women who have kept on going no matter what life throws at them.

It's not surprising really when we are constantly bombarded with toxic positivity through our social media channels. My personal favourite is:

"Be a radiator not a drain".

I'll tell you something, anyone that requires you to be a radiator is not managing their own energy and wants to feed off yours, but I digress.

Why do we keep doing that? Why do we keep apologising and diminishing our pain? Why do we apologise for talking about the difficulties we have survived or the awful things we are going through? Or that our back hurts? Or that we feel exhausted?

I don't think I've heard anyone say the opposite "it's not that good, other people go through better"!

Here's the thing. The minute you are in my treatment room it is about you. If you tell me about other people I'm looking for how they might impact you. I'm listening to what you have to tell me and watching for little clues in your energy and body. This tells me about how you really feel and if it is creating any blocks for you. If it feels bad, it feels bad. That's ok. It's ok to feel anything you feel.

There's no comparison. There's no judgement. Just a genuine hope that I can create a space where you feel comfortable so you can tune into yourself and what you need to feel better.

Your self-care is important. Your experiences and your feelings are valid. Whatever brings you to book a treatment is for a good reason and utterly justified.

Over to you... do you find yourself thinking "it's not that bad"? Do you feel under pressure to be positive even when you don't feel so great? Do you find positive quotes toxic or uplifting?